Originally posted at http://jermpc.com by Jeremy Carroll on March 26, 2014.
My wife and 8 year old son picked up a book from the public library last weekend that, as it turns out, is quite helpful and informative. It is a short little book called "Cell Phone Safety" by Kathy Allen.
Most parents will have to deal with the issue of their children having and using a cell phone. Many parents want to help their children learn to use their cell phones responsibly but don't know where to begin in talking with them. I believe this book gives parents a good track on which to start. For children, it asks the right questions to help children begin thinking for themselves about this responsibility.
A few notable points:
The book is written directly to children, most likely younger teenagers (older teens might find it "immature"). While it's certainly not perfect nor comprehensive, I believe there are several good things to note about it. Addressing topics like "Phones are not toys," "Public v. Private Info," "Identity Theft and Dangers," "Cyberbullying," "Think Before You Send," and "Screens Taking Time Away from Real Life" makes this a book from which both parents and children/teenagers can benefit.
"Cell Phone Safety" encourages open, honest communication between child and parent. On several pages the statement is made "Talk to a parent or trusted adult." The book elaborates a "trusted adult" to be a teacher or someone similar. Parents definitely need to be intentional about keeping the lines of communication open, but children need to be reminded often (from outside the home helps tremendously) that their parents are not the enemy.
While cell phones certainly enable fun aspects of social life, they are not toys. Owners/users of cell phones, regardless of age, must remember that these devices are a tool for sending and receiving information, and that's not a game. This book doesn't gloss over or minimize the reality of the dangers of sharing private information publicly.
In light of the "it's not a toy" point, "Cell Phone Safety" encourages and emphasizes responsibility on the part of the child, not just the parent.
Dealing with questions like "What's the harm in telling posting about where I am?" and "What's the harm in responding to a number I don't know?" undergirds the serious nature of information sharing and helps children understand the risks.
Similarly, kids and adults alike should adhere to the point of "think before you post/share" and in many cases, you simply cannot "un-send."
Kids and adults alike can, also, benefit from periodically and intentionally unplugging; I know I can.
Boundaries are not a means to end fun but a means to ensure safety, just like crosswalks and traffic lights are on the road. Working with your child to set and understand boundaries will go a long way toward cell phone and online safety.
All in all, if you are struggling with how to help your child understand the importance of online/cell phone safety, this little book is a pretty good place to start. If you are just beginning crossing into the territory, as we are, of adding an additional cell phone in your home, this book will give you a path to walk on as you begin.
Note: This is simply a short review of a book I read. I have no affiliation with the author, publisher, or anyone else associated with this book. I have found its contents helpful; perhaps you can, too.