My Ten (or so) Favorite Parenting Books

Book-Week-Childhood-101 There are a handful of recent parenting books I keep on my shelf so that I can grab one quickly when families come to me for help. Write me back with your own 'top ten' list.

The following ten books are my "go-to's." I'm putting my own book in the "Honorable Mention" category. Can't number it with my ten favorite yet. I could have put in a number of greats from way back but I'll produce a 'legends' list later. (Hint, it will include the first parenting book I read back in 1975 - Dare to Discipline by James Dobson.) Here they are in no particular order.

1. (Listed first because it's the most recent one I've read): Rite of Passage Parenting - by Walker Moore (explains how our modern culture has created prolonged adolescence and irresponsibility. Great ideas on how to undo that trend and produce capable, responsible and self-reliant adults.)

2. Christian Parenting Handbook - by Turansky and Miller (50 chapters dealing with various parenting issues and ways to use a heart based approach in each issue)

3. Parenting With Scripture – by Kara Durbin (Common issues parents deal with are alphabetically listed and linked to related Scriptures that you can discuss with your child.)

4. The Slow Fade – Reggie Joiner and others (The best discussion of how the church can approach the problem of college aged kids leaving the faith. While written to church leaders, it has implications for parenting.)

5. Peacemaking for Families – by Ken Sande (essential tools and strategies for makingpeace within families: great for marriages, parent-child relationships, and all other relationships within the body of Christ.)

6. Everyday Talk – John A. Younts (A great discussion of how you put Deuteronomy 6:7 into practice through the routines of life.)

7. Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes [in You and Your Kids] – by Turansky and Miller (Best book on how to practice honor in home life so that your kids will ‘honor their father and their mother’)

8. Good and Angry [Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids] – by Turansky and Miller (Best book on overcoming the anger that develops within families. Explores a range of issues including helping children accept no as an answer, and helping them learn not to lie.)

9. Parenting Is Heart Work – Turansky and Miller (A thorough discussion of the Bible’s view of the human heart. Includes the core of their teaching on heart based parenting and discipline in particular.)

10. Sacred Marriage – by Gary Thomas (best marriage advice for Christians I’ve ever read. Helps us realize God’s plans for us in marriage – that the difficulties are God’s way of discipling us. While this is not a parenting book, per se, it provides a strong foundation for your parenting.)

Honorable Mention:

Parenting UnChained – Overcoming the Ten Deceptions that Shackle Christian Parents - by James D. Dempsey (This book is important because it could awaken well-meaning Christian parents to dangers they don't yet see.)

Shepherding a Child’s Heart – by Ted Tripp (Some would put this number one on the list. It's very good, but I can't agree with his position that spanking is required to be a Christian parent. Spanking works with some kids but not all. Even more, some parents can't control their anger and thus should not spank.)

Give Them Grace – by Fitzpatrick and Thompson

Finding the Right Track – John A. Younts (A booklet really, but it packs a punch.)