The Deception That Silences Parents

           In my book, Parenting Unchained, I identify 10 deceptions Satan uses to undermine Biblical parenting. One deception is this: Children should choose their own life course (parents don't need to help with this.) While parents don't want to jam their own goals down the throats of their kids, this does not mean we should totally step aside and provide no guidance for our children in setting the key directions of life. Here's how I make this case in my book:

I've heard some highly educated parents say, "I don't want to influence my children's religion. I want them to choose for themselves." When I hear this, I know those parents are blinded by Satan and probably have no clue as to what they actually believe. If they really believed anything with certainty, surely they would want to pass that belief on to the children for whom they are responsible. What such a statement reveals about the speaker is this: they do not believe in the existence of any absolute truth. Thus it follows that nothing is worth teaching to their children. Taking that point of view, since everyone’s truth is unique to him or her, the child’s truth is as valid as the parent’s. Maybe the child should teach values to the parent!

As ridiculous as this sounds, this reverse education happens in countless homes in our post-modern culture. Parents leave the most critical questions of life (Is there a Creator? Am I responsible to a higher power? Why am I alive?) to their children with very little direct teaching. The ambiguity of the parent toward these fundamental questions leaves a moral vacuum that MTV, CBS, NBC, CNN, and various other cultural outlets rush to fill, so in a sense, our children really are pushing their immature values up to an older generation. Here’s the question that many parents seem so reluctant to answer: should parents try to instill their foundational views about life, with all their religious implications, in their children?

And the answer is yes, of course! The more pertinent question is which views will you instill? Your children will copy what you do, and if your worldview is confusing and unclear even to you, that same confusing and unclear worldview will be lived out before your children. If you believe in a Creator, your children will likely believe the same. If you don’t believe there is a God to whom we give an account someday, that view will filter down to your children. If you believe that any path to God will get you there as long as you are sincere, then that idea will very likely come to rest within your children.*

The Bible clearly commands parents to teach spiritual truth to their children: "These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up." (Deuteronomy 6:6-7) Don't allow Satan to silence the voice of your child's most important teacher—you.

*(from Chapter Thirteen of Parenting Unchained- Overcoming the Ten Deceptions That Shackle Christian Parents)