There's more to the defense of marriage than the passage or negation of a bill in Congress. The whole institution, regardless of definition, has lost value to the current generation. And this should scare us.
Marriage, first of all, is God's invention. He brought the first bride to the first groom and blessed their union. Evolutionists argue it is a man-made, survival-of-the-fittest institution that represses women and is no longer a financial necessity. The data, not to mention the Bible, says otherwise. Any honest evaluation of our country's biggest problems points a clear finger at the loss of value for marriage and traditional two parent families.
I'm not bashing divorcees, many of whom find themselves divorced against their deepest desire. I am calling for an honest evaluation of the data, and calling the truth as it is. Stable two parent families are good for kids. Instability, for whatever cause, is bad for them.
First, we must acknowledge the trend. The following quote and graph at the beginning of this blog come from a recent study published by the Family Institute:
"Over the last half century, marriage has taken quite a beating. Since the 1960's, the rate of new marriages fell by more than 50 percent, and rates of divorce and single parenthood more than doubled. The end result is that marriage is no longer the anchor for the adult life course, or the family foundation for the bearing and rearing of children, that it once was."
This same article goes on to say that this trend has flattened and thus there's hope, but there's also much work to be done by Christians who care about this nation's children. The truth and the proof are on our side. Study after study point to economic, educational, and societal advantages for kids raised in two-parent homes. There's even a term for this now—the marriage premium. The latest data, and an extensive explanation of it, can be found here.
"Some couples who are unmarried when their child is born go on to forge lifelong marriages, and some married couples go on to divorce, but in general children born outside of wedlock are significantly more likely to experience family instability and single parenthood. Given that, it’s no surprise that we find that nonmarital childbearing in 2000 is a key predictor of family instability among today’s teens. In other words, states with low levels of nonmarital childbearing in 2000 witness high levels of family stability for their adolescents today because marriage is linked with family stability. "
We are in a pitched battle in this country and around the world. Marriage is under attack, not only in its definition but in its value. No act of Congress will secure it, yet ultimately I know God's truth will become apparent. In the meantime however, I care about the children of this nation and will use whatever voice I have to share God's truth: "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled: but fornicators and adulterers God will judge." Hebrews 13:4